Hubby thought that Lucy shouldn’t be left out. Of course, she’s only two, and could give a rat’s ass about what her board says and if she gets to color in a square. She sometimes runs excitedly to the board to color in a manners square or a sharing square, but for the most part, she shakes her head furiously and shouts, “No!” when I ask her to participate.
And whatever. It works for some kids (and ages) and fails fantastically for others.
The boards are just magnetic dry-erase boards that I picked up at Wal-Mart. I used the Cameo to cut out a chart (on the Silhouette Gallery, under “Chore Chart”, I believe) that I resized to the dimesions of the board. I also cut the days of the week out of the vinyl; this way they can’t be erased when the board is cleared by clumsy preschooler’s hands. It took some patience on my part to get the vinyl chart onto the magnetic board without huge creases and wrinkles. I’m still learning… but that doesn’t make it any less teeth-clenched-and-blood-boilingly frustrating. Hubs did wander over to me while I was finishing the project and quietly said, “Do you need any help? I haven’t heard you swear like that in a long time….”
(Not to worry, the kids were sleeping at the time. I didn’t increase their vocabularies through the magic of crafting failures)
He also accidentally dropped a few crumbs from the snack he was eating onto some sticky-side-up vinyl resting in front of me. By the look in my eye, he knew to put on his helmet and dive into the trench. This was going to be a blitzkrieg of Wife Attack, and he needed to take cover. So no. I didn’t need his help.
We’re three weeks into this Responsibility Chart thing, and like I said… it has its successes and failures. She enjoys marking down her accomplishments, and we’ve reached two rewards already. We will probably change up her goals fairly soon, to keep things interesting, but I think that overall, her personality really meshes well with the chart thing.
I intend on making some magnets that visually depict her goals. She can’t read what I’ve written, though she’s memorized her goals upside-down and sideways. I think that it will mean another level of independence if she can mark her accomplishments without me standing three inches from her, showing her where to mark it.
We will have to see if Lucy warms up to it with time, if ever. She’s a stubborn little mule… a chart just may not be the carrot that leads her.
These are so awesome. These are sellable.
I love Lucy’s response to it, PRICELESS! She definitely does have a mind of her own but she is 2. Totally explains it.
Thanks, Amy! I’m trying to figure out how to add a more visual aspect to them (pictures, etc), without cluttering them up entirely.
Count me on being torn on them…I don’t like the whole do it and get a reward thing. But that is me and my “issues” but I love the idea of lists and chore charts. Catch 22 sort of.
I’ve thought about a bedtime one that doesn’t involve a prize, but is like a check list to help get rid of the “I need this” bullshit fiasco or the “I have to pee” because oops mom forgot about it (so the list would help me too haha) and then use the check list as sort of “weapon” well we already checked off, pee, drink, hugs, story, yadda yadda yadda so tough luck kid haha.
we have friends that do rewards charts and I can’t stand the way the kids use it, like “oh mom I just put my shoes away, so I should get a sticker” I’d much rather be like “wow thank you for putting your laundry in the hamper, that really helps mommy” and treat them once in a blue moon for being awesome and helpful. But I can also see how an end goal in sight can be a motivator for some kids. Ugh yeah I’m so torn on them hahaa. I’m also a list person, I love lists and checking off things, which is what draws me to chore, good deeds etc lists. But my lists aren’t for prize per say, they are for a fridge full of groceries, a clean house, a packed suitcase, presents bought etc, reminders.
Sorry not at all trashing your chart, I do think it’s cute and you had me thinking “oh yeah I need to get that chart made/bought for S” but rereading your “intrinsically” vs “extrinsically” paragraph makes me lean more towards skipping it for now ha.
Yeah, it is a tough one, isn’t it?
I think that it works well for Lila, but it could definitely backfire for some kids (or end up just becoming a tool for bribery). It’s important to choose goals wisely too. We have decided to refrain from choosing goals that are “things” and instead go for experiences. This way, the family gets to do something fun together, and it doesn’t necessarily have to cost money.
I’ve seen charts used as only a checklist (and not a rewards-based chart), where it’s more of a reminder for kids. It might be something to look into.
I think business offices need these boards…
I love Lucy’s goal of “wearing clothes for the day”.
She’s one of a kind.
Oh, I know. Only my kid would need that for a goal. Shit.
I’m actually working on something that would be more pertinent to businesses, but instead will be a way to keep myself – as a house manager – organized. Hubby has already teased me about my plans, but I’m excited. I can’t wait to work on it, and then curse like a trucker as the vinyl folds and creases and sticks to the wrong places. I’m a masochist, what can I say?