I angsted about this stage of our lives for many blog posts. I talked about selling our house, and then packing up the house, and then ignoring that I was doing a terrible job of packing up the house, and then finally…
We didn’t move into our new house, though. We temporarily moved into our very generous brother-and-sister-in-law’s basement. Because they are very kind. And because they had the room.
And the children could not be more thrilled.
See… this basement is under two floors that house two boys (the girls’ cousins). Two boys that are close enough in age to Lila and Lucy to be in-house, 24/7 playmates. With dart guns. And video games.
With a backyard that has a swingset and a trampoline.
Mr. Suburble jokes that Lila is secretly hoping to be adopted by his sister. She aches to be upstairs with the boys. Fat crocodile (not-real-at-all-because-this-child-is-a-mini-Meryl) tears roll down her face when I declare that she “must come downstairs and just have some quiet time!”
And Lucy is content to muck around in the yard. Patch of mud? Let’s make it muddier.
Trampoline to bounce on? Let’s make it bouncier.
Roaring game of “Let’s be Pirates!” happening? Let’s make it pirate-ier.
But I do miss some things.
I miss having plans for a garden. Or for any big outdoor project, really.
Our new house won’t be ours until the summer, and when that comes, I’ll be wielding paintbrushes and cordless drills. The outside will have to be quiet and wait its turn.
I miss the island in my old kitchen.
The girls would drag chairs up to the island while I worked on a recipe, often demanding that they stir or pour or taste. I will be happy to have that workspace back, and to be able to invite the girls back into that part of the day.
And I miss the predictability of the life in that old house.
I had decorated it to my liking. I had changed what I wanted to change. Despite the fact that we were ready to move on, we had made a home there.
I wonder, “Can I make this new house my new home!?!?”
And most days, I feel good about it. I feel like I can tackle this, no prob.
But sometimes… on other days… where I’m trying to remember, “How big WAS that bedroom?” in my daydreams over a cup of tea… I panic. “Will it feel the same? Will I be blase about turning the key in the lock? About making a big dinner and having friends over? About walking into my backyard and feeling like this is my own little patch of earth?”
I won’t lie; it makes me want to throw up.
But underneath that queasiness… there is a lot of excitement. I can’t wait to show you guys the house. I can’t wait to put my mark on it… to look up at the vaulted ceilings in the living room and exclaim, “Look at how HIGH these things are!!!!”
“Ready or not, here I come!”
And until then… the girls will play. They will play and laugh and find friendship with their cousins that they may not have found in quite the same way, had we not had this temporary lay-over.
Change always comes bearing gifts. ~Price Pritchett
Laurie @ Vin’yet Etc.
Well, I had no idea that you lived in my head! Hello in there! While all of the good things will come, that doubt creeps its little fingers in sometimes. How can something so cool be terrifying and exciting all at once? I really wish it would just pick the side of good and stay there! I know how you feel and even though I will tell you it will be phenomenal and you will make it that way, that silly “what if” voice will keep whispering…
We’ve been here 9 months… some days I still miss our farm house, the summer kitchen mostly. I have a funny feeling though, like me you suck at waiting! 😉 I’m still waiting for my home to be what it is in my head, like the old place was, I suck at waiting too. My point… “focus on the wonder, not the wait” and it will all be exactly how it should. Now off to take my own advice! xo
I’m terrible at waiting… instant gratification is my favourite thing. I can imagine that you still miss your house; it was a beautiful space. But your new place is so lovely too. I love your quote “focus on the wonder, not the wait”…. we’re definitely trying to soak in the good times we’re having here. It’s gone so much smoother than we could ever hope.
Change is HARD…even if it IS a good change! Plus, it sounds like you’re kinda stuck “in between” at the moment, no matter HOW nice your brother and sister-in-law are. On the (major) plus side – seems the kids are loving the transition, and I’m sure getting your new digs will be just amazing. Just think of all the future DIY projects…and blog post material! Best of luck to you and your family. 🙂
Yes, we are in between… and maybe that’s the hard part to deal with. But yes, the kids are just loving every second of their days here… so that’s fantastic. And the blog post material that is awaiting me?!?! Oh… I’m so excited about that.
Oh I am sure it is hard, but like you said, what an amazing opportunity for the cousins to be so close by. It will likely change their relationship forever. So exciting to tackle a new house!! I love that…. but the waiting is so hard. Been there.
Yes, the waiting is the toughest part. I wish I could just get in there and start tackling all of the projects that I want to work on. Did you guys build your house? or was it a new-to-you?
Dani @ lifeovereasy
Sounds like the girls are having a blast! I was a mess when I moved too, and the girls still miss our first home sometimes. But I know you can make a beautiful home for your family where ever you are. I can’t wait to see what you do with your new place!
The girls are having such a good time… I feel like I’m so conflicted… I’m thrilled and terrified to be moving. It’s just the moving game, I’m guessing. And I know that once we’re in, I’ll wonder why I ever worried at all! It’s got to be that I’m spending too much time in my head.
You are so lucky to have such a wonderful family. Make the most of this glorious time for your family. The kids will be so enriched by this experience.
Dorth – you’re very right. We are doing our best to soak in all of this great family time. The kids are playing hard every day… it’s such a wonderful thing.
Lauren @ The Thinking Closet
I loved this post, Tara. You really do address all the complicated emotions that come with a move; the paradox of longing for the old and turning toward the new. I love hearing how your daughters are embracing the now! And how you are embracing change, hard though it is. Also, you made me cry at the end there. And not just with that heart-rocking quote, but your own last two sentences. You are quotable, too, my dear!
I didn’t think that it would be complicated… this whole moving thing… but it is. You’re such a sweet soul, Lauren. I appreciate how you’re always trying to encourage me, lady. You’re a true friend! 🙂
Lauren @ The Thinking Closet
Aw, shucks. The feeling is so mutual my dear. Cannot wait to attack-hug you at Haven this summer!
Beautiful. I love this post my friend. We are following along on this journey and can’t wait to see what’s next 🙂
Awww… thank you. You’ll be one of the first over for a celebratory champagne and appies!
Aww….I know the feeling exactly. We are finally moving this weekend and it is exciting and a little melancholy at the same time. And…it seems like it took forever! Hang in there girl and I’m excited to see your new place!
I’m so excited for you, Danni! I’m excited to see YOUR house, too! You guys must be so relieved to finally be in your place. Did it end up turning out just as you wanted?
Inspire Me Heather
How exciting to be planning a new home! Until then I hope you get to relax and enjoy this time, you’ll be busy soon enough! I liked your last quote too and your photos were wonderful! Take care Tara!!
It is SO exciting, thanks, Heather! I try to relax… but I mostly just over-plan and find things to fret over. I think I need a cocktail! 😉
Jen @ RamblingRenovators
What a joyful, crazy time of life this must be! Your girls are so lucky to have this time with their cousins. While they’re out playing in the mud, I’d be scheming up decorating plans for the new house 😉 Having family around means built-in babysitters too, right? Enjoy this bit of time you have to slow down.
You are so right, Jen. I know that when I get all crazy about not having control over every little thing that I should just…. stop. And enjoy.
My girls are just loving life right now, and I’m so happy for that. This posse of four is very happy to be together.
Wow. I know the feeling of that temporariness. I hope you all get settled soon!
Waiting is hard, as much as you might miss things like your island and new adventure awaits and it looks like while you wait you can have some fun!
I CAN”T wait to see your new digs! I need to see these ceilings you speak of… on the edge of my seat!
The way thrilling to be planning a new home! Till however wish you can take it easy and luxuriate in this time, you’ll always be active quickly enough! My spouse and i loved the final quote as well along with your images have been superb! Be aware Tara!!
Kenz @ Interiors By Kenz
This makes me so nervous. This is going to be us in just about a month. I haven’t announced it on the blog, but we are selling our house because we are building. We got an offer yesterday, so things are moving a lot faster than we expected. We are going to be living with Aaron’s brother until our house is done (mid September). I’m really nervous about living in someone else’s house that long. I think there are a lot of things I’m going to miss. I think the dogs are going to have a really hard time. Sigh. It’s life though, right? Thanks for testing the waters for me. Good luck woman!
Wow! That’s amazing, Kenzie! Building a house has been a long-time dream of mine, but I’m not brave enough to take the plunge. I can’t wait to see how your house turns out! I imagine that it will be stunning, as your house always has been.
It’s so funny, isn’t it, how we spend all of this time and money fixing up our house, and as soon as it’s done, we sell it.
Your new house sounds like a forever home, though, and I imagine that will make it worth the wait.
I’m sure that your dogs will have a few weird moments, but they’ll probably adapt. Are you living with family during your transitional period? How long do you think you’ll be ‘between homes”? I’m so excited for you, lady! And a teensy bit envious. Can’t wait until you start posting progress photos!